Have I ever realized my role as a MOTHER?
Right from my childhood when I looked around I found some people whose intellectual level was more than normal people, they took situations differently, their responses was more mature and they seemed to be more cool minded. One thing which I observed was that many of those people were men. I'm not gender biased but I saw most of the times that men are more mature, my elder brothers and even one who's 3 years younger to me were also one of those people. I thought many a times that I didn't get inspired by the women more, I had many friends in my student lives but they were more focused on their own lives only, all girls. This made me think a lot of time that as the population of boys is more than of girls at my home might be the reason for this perception.
Right from my childhood when I looked around I found some people whose intellectual level was more than normal people, they took situations differently, their responses was more mature and they seemed to be more cool minded. One thing which I observed was that many of those people were men. I'm not gender biased but I saw most of the times that men are more mature, my elder brothers and even one who's 3 years younger to me were also one of those people. I thought many a times that I didn't get inspired by the women more, I had many friends in my student lives but they were more focused on their own lives only, all girls. This made me think a lot of time that as the population of boys is more than of girls at my home might be the reason for this perception.
One more thing which once I heard from someone was about a person who was a learned person that any of his child wasn't as much intelligent as he was. I thought that's true but why???
Recently I was telling some stories to my youngest one and while reading these books, I realized that the writer had dedicated the book to his mother, then in another biography I found that the mother's love of Learning influenced the child so much that he was able to contribute in the society.
These books and biography was of people from our region, not of West.
This made me reflect that the great people were great because of their mothers, the child observes her mother closely, there are many perceptions seeped in a child's personality through the mother as roots absorb the water from the land where the plant is, whether the child is a girl or a boy.
Naturally boys become closer to their fathers, but what they have absorbed through their mothers wasn't easy to erase or remove.
An intelligent man isn't able to influence his children because of two reasons.
1. He has a cause or mission, which takes a lot of time, physical, intellectual energy of that person.
2. There are many perceptions and habits of mind child had received, so in the limited interaction with his children he doesn't realize what world view their children are having.
So if in any phase of life, they looked at their children they realized that their children think differently, and from there, their ways start to part.
If an intellectual person isn't able to influence his wife and lives his life by only his own commitment to the vision he has in his mind, is I think not doing justice not only with his own family, but also with himself and with the society too.
When he wants to sit and talk, his own family is unable to receive and internalize his ideas, thoughts and understanding.
What these great people's mothers did was also the result of their own mothers (I guess) because the more I ponder I realize importance of my own role in my family.
I feel that if my father worked on developing my mother's perceptions and made her think with maturity, we all siblings had more mature way of looking at things, situations and life.
Not only my father there are many persons could become an influence for this society by just make their presence felt not only physically but mentally and off course verbally.
Ayesha
